In today’s corporate world, having a strong support system is essential for career advancement. While mentorship, sponsorship, and networking with other women are critical, gaining the support of your male colleagues can also play a significant role in your professional growth.
Male allies can provide unique perspectives, open doors to new opportunities, and advocate for you in spaces where you may not always have a voice.
If you’re wondering how to engage male colleagues in supporting your career, here are some actionable strategies to foster meaningful relationships and gain their support.
Men can try our Step Up Men program to increase their influence.
- Build Genuine Relationships
Support from male colleagues starts with authentic relationships. Take the time to get to know your male coworkers beyond work tasks—whether it’s chatting over coffee or participating in team-building activities. Building trust and rapport creates a foundation for mutual support and understanding.
Action Step: Find common interests or shared goals to connect on a personal level. Figure out how you can support them and their agenda first, so that they see you as an ally for their own career goals and feel more inclined to help you fulfill yours.
- Communicate Your Goals Clearly
Sometimes, men may not be aware of your professional aspirations or the challenges you face. Clearly communicating your career goals and the kind of support you need can help them become more effective allies.
Action Step: Be specific when discussing your goals—whether it’s leadership development, access to high-profile projects, or mentorship opportunities. Make a specific ask, for instance: “I would appreciate you supporting my position during the weekly meeting.” Or, I’d appreciate it if you could get me an invitation to the upcoming conference in Vegas.” When male colleagues understand your ambitions, they are more likely to advocate for you.
- Seek Out Male Mentors and Sponsors
Having male mentors and sponsors can provide valuable insights into navigating the corporate landscape as well as the unwritten rules of your organization. Sponsors, in particular, can advocate for you when opportunities arise and help you gain visibility within the organization.
Action Step: Identify male leaders you admire and whose career paths align with your aspirations and seek their mentorship and/or sponsorship. Be proactive in asking for guidance, feedback and opportunities, and also in finding out ways in which you can support them.
- Leverage Their Networks
Male colleagues often have access to different networks within and outside the organization. Tapping into these networks can help you expand your professional reach and discover new opportunities.
Action Step: Ask for introductions to key stakeholders or influential figures who can support your career growth. Attend events and meetings where you can connect with a broader network.
- Educate Them on Gender Challenges
Many men want to support their female colleagues but may not fully understand the challenges women face in the workplace. Providing insights into issues such as unconscious bias, pay gaps, and lack of representation can foster empathy and drive action.
Action Step: Share relevant articles, research, or personal experiences to help male colleagues understand the importance of their role in leveling the playing field for everyone.
- Recognize and Appreciate Their Support
Acknowledging and appreciating the support you receive from male colleagues reinforces positive behaviors and encourages them to continue being allies. Doing so publicly is a bonus.
Action Step: A simple thank-you note, public acknowledgment, or a shoutout in a team meeting can go a long way in fostering a supportive culture.
- Be a Strong Advocate for Yourself
While having male allies is valuable, self-advocacy remains crucial. Speak up about your achievements, challenges, and aspirations to ensure your voice is heard. Also, it’s critical for you to provide your potential allies with the words you want them to say about you when you are not in the room.
Action Step: Practice assertiveness and self-promotion in ways that align with your personality and career goals. Confidence in your own abilities will encourage others to support you.
- Create Mutual Value
As always, the Red Shoe Movement advocates for mutual support. Keep this concept in mind so you can offer value to your male colleagues by sharing insights, collaborating on projects, and recognizing their contributions any time you get.
Action Step: Look for ways to support their goals, whether it’s offering your expertise or providing feedback on their initiatives.
- Stay Resilient and Patient
Building a strong support network takes time. Not every male colleague will immediately understand the importance of supporting women’s career growth, but persistence and patience can lead to positive change.
Action Step: Keep advocating for yourself and others, and recognize that small steps can make a big difference over time.
Gaining the support of your male colleagues is about inclusion. When men and women work together to support each other’s careers, organizations become stronger, more innovative, and more successful.
By building relationships, communicating your goals, and fostering mutual understanding, you can create a network of male allies who are invested in your career growth.
Have you successfully gained the support of male colleagues in your career? Share your experiences with us in the comments or on social media using #RedShoeMovement!
