Is it ever okay to lie in order to advance your career goals?

Is it ever okay to lie in order to advance your career goals?I rarely accept meetings with people who I don’t know or know very little, especially if I’m not clear what the purpose of the meeting is. The other day, however, an acquaintance asked that we met up to talk about a project. As much as I asked her to tell me what she wanted to discuss, she insisted that she’d rather tell me the purpose for our meeting face-to-face. Going against what experience had taught me in the past, I accepted to meet with her.

The valuable lesson in this meeting will help us all have more success when trying to reach our personal and professional goals, I promise.

You have no idea what the whole purpose of this meeting was for! Read on…

I agreed to meet this woman at a coffee shop in the middle of one of my hectic work days; once we were face to face, she finally explained that she was working for a multilevel marketing company and that the sole purpose of her asking me to see her had been to try to recruit me. (The company is one of those whose structure is based on members trying recruit other people under him to sell a product; these people, in turn, look for others to recruit, and so on.) I felt completely betrayed. If this had been the point of the meeting, why didn’t she tell me on the phone? She probably thought she’d have a better chance of convincing me in person. Nevertheless, her lack of honesty added to her inconsiderate waste of my time did not give her the results she was seeking.

How many times have you used these dishonest tactics to reach a goal? Things like promising to take care of certain job responsibilities in exchange for getting a project; or telling someone they’d get some sort of benefit from participating in an event you organized, when you knew this wouldn’t be the case. Sometimes, the problem is simply a result of poor planning. Perhaps this acquaintance was sure that I’d benefit from what she was offering me. Other times, it has more to do with being focused on just yourself instead of considering how your unfulfilled promise affects the other person.

My answer to the proposal this acquaintance (she is, by the way, now deleted from my contacts) was pitching me? A very blunt no. I honestly considered just getting up and leaving the moment I found out why I had been dragged to the coffee shop. Imwanted to tell her that her honestly would have been appreciated when she called to ask me to talk–but, on top of that, had she been forthcoming about the purpose of our meeting, I would have recommended her company to people in my network who would have perhaps been interested in what she was offering. But given the way in which things played out, I found it impossible to work with her.

The truth is, no matter what field you work in, without mutual trust, it’s impossible to see any positive results. When you start out with a lie, it’s hard to get over the bad taste that leaves in people’s mouths. The best practice is to be careful with the means that you use to get to the ends you desire. Even if you have the best of intentions, if the other party feels lied to, you won’t get anywhere very far.

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This article was originally published on Mamas Latinas.

Staying Motivated in a Tough Job Market

Staying Motivated in a Tough Job MarketThese days millions of people are out there pounding the pavement, looking for a  job, and growing increasingly frustrated. When you’ve been searching for weeks and even months without any progress, it can be difficult to stay the course. Whether you are a single woman who just wants a change or a mother with kids to feed, it’s vital that you stay positive and motivated.

Without a doubt, being unemployed is an incredibly stressful experience for you and your entire family. In addition to worry over bills, your own feelings of guilt about being unable to contribute to the household income can put a strain on your marriage and create a rift between you and your partner. You may even have a shorter temper with your children who, undoubtedly, sense their parents’ tension concerning money.

It’s important to stay focused on maintaining your family’s emotional health during these rough times. Make sure you keep the lines of communication open between you, your partner, and your children. Be honest with your kids and make this an opportunity to teach them about saving money. Continue to make date nights with your husband, even if it’s just for a drive in the country or a picnic in your living room while the kids stay at grandma’s.

Avoid falling into a job search rut. You may find yourself  looking through the same old websites or perusing the same classifieds each week (or day). Perhaps you are sending out a poorly written resume that never gets picked up by the software companies use to filter candidates. Branch out and try new approaches.

•Check alternate publications and websites. Try using social media groups as a place to connect with potential recruiters.
•Network! Call old friends and coworkers to see if they have any leads. Get out of the house and attend events, conferences, parties, and use every opportunity to meet people and make contacts.
Cold Call.  Contact companies that you’re interested in working for, regardless of whether they have openings posted. Connect with the diversity departments and leverage your ethnicity.
•Have your resume reviewed by a professional. If your resume doesn’t include keywords related to the kind of work you want to do it’s unlikely to ever make it to a final slate of candidates. Same goes if it has any mistakes. Make sure a professional reviews it.
•Post resumes in new places online. There are numerous sites that allow you to post your resume to the public. Ihispano focuses on companies interested in hiring Hispanics.

Have you considered going back to school? If you’re the main breadwinner for the family, a full time job is obviously a priority. However, if you are a part of a two-adult household, going back to school can give you much greater earning potential as long as you chose a degree that is in high demand. In addition, you could qualify for financial aid that can help keep the family afloat while you get additional education under your belt.

Want to be your own boss? As Latinas, daughters and granddaughters of immigrants we still carry that entrepreneurial gene. Tap into this entrepreneurial spirit by exploring what you’re good at and how it could be marketed to the masses. Many mamis have gone from unemployment to self-employment and seen huge success. There are countless stories of women making it as web designers, writers or bloggers, and many other business ventures. There are even women who have turned hobbies like baking cookies into lucrative careers.

When one route doesn’t get you to your destination, you seek another route. The same should be true when you are frustrated with your job search. By keeping a positive attitude, thinking creatively, and enlisting the help and support of your family, you can put yourself on the path to success while maintaining a happy home.

This article was originally published on Mamiverse.